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Where does your value come from?

I tend to read multiple books at the same time (especially my non-fiction ones), and one of the books Rachelle and I have really been enjoying lately is Kyle Cease’s The Illusion of Money.

He has a chapter in there called “Raising Your Value” that sparked some thoughts today regarding something that many of us face in life — whether in our career, our relationships, or our work as an entrepreneur — and which can profoundly affect how we feel and how we show up — and ultimately the results we create, too. 

First a question — 

Where does your value come from?

Many of us may have an initial spiritual answer — our faith, our Creator, our family, love — and we also believe each of us has an intrinsic value.

But how many of us often “forget” this value when we’re engaging with the world, and especially when we’re in business or marketing a product or service, or paying our bills?

So here’s a question for us all as we go through our day, interacting with the world, posting on social media, and engaging in conversations:

Where does our value come from?  Are we needing external validation — whether it’s a title, promotion, our bank account, our results, or others’ perception and response to us  — or are we letting our creativity, gifts, joy, and intention flow through us into our work, our posts, our conversations, our day regardless of how people seem to respond?

What if we chose to let what inspires and energizes us flow through us and approached our day and our interactions with a bit of curiosity and even a sense of adventure?

What if we allowed ourselves to create, share, and — as one of my key mentors whom many of you know, Artemis Limpert, says — “beacon out” without being attached to the outcome?

What if we “showed up” in life or our work or business with the thought “I am an amazing person, and I see your brilliance, too.  Let’s see if we can partner and create something magnificent together?”

Those of you who journal, you might enjoy taking a moment to write a couple thoughts that are stirring in you right now. And feel free to share them in the comments below — I’d love to hear what’s stirring in you!

Then expand your awareness as you bring these thoughts to how you show up in your day.

Food for thought as we go forward creating a life we love.

Enjoy! 

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Dadpreneurlife – Adventure Week With the Kids

Just created this “dadpreneurlife” video at Rachelle‘s suggestion – a combo of life and business and a recent “adventure week” with the kids. Perhaps it will inspire you in creating your own adventures!

Special thanks to the guys at Quest Outdoors here in Louisville – though they didn’t make it into the video, I did stop by in the middle of the week and they hooked us up with a fun solar light and a great map of Red River Gorge.

What’s one of your favorite “mini” adventures, or one you’re planning this year?

Enjoy!

P.S. Get more tips to Thrive with Dr. Ben by email here.

What’s your Kryptonite? (Guest post from Rachelle)

So we all know the story of Superman and how kryptonite made him ineffective.  His experience gives an intriguing perspective on our own.

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We all wrestle with things that take us out from reaching our potential, or thriving in our relationships.

One of the benefits of being in free enterprise with Ben for over a decade now is that I have learned much about myself.  I know more about what my fears are.  I know that sometimes I will get stuck and depressed.  I know what makes me ineffective.

Here is a very recent story:  I struggled for several months about where I should focus my efforts, and I felt overwhelmed by the “daily feeding” and what felt like a burden of supporting our kids’ schooling and needs.   It really took me out.

Thankfully, I made a little trip to Michigan and got recharged by girlfriends and remembered what abundance and support felt like.   It was a sweet tipping point.   Once home, I got into a groove with my food and the ideas for writing and marketing came flooding in.  I was also excited to add my enthusiasm to Ben’s efforts.

And then, I got back on Facebook;  my sweet Kryptonite.

On our Mac I seemed to be able to handle it:    I focused on our international team and sending out value on my Biz pages.   But once I put it on my phone,  my brain flow and imagination disappeared. I kept checking the notifications and, embarrassingly found myself reacting internally to political stances.  I got so distracted, I quit exercising and writing.   It seemed  like I lost weeks of momentum in only a day.    I lost this “Super Entrepreneur in self-mastery,  creating ideas in the sauna, powerful woman”.

The difference this time around is that I have a new sense of kindness to myself.  I have  a knowledge that even though I am stuck or feel like a failure, I can change.  I can find my sweet spot and vision again.  It helps to choose that All is Well in this moment.  It also helps to eventually laugh and celebrate that you have more material for writing, and for coaching others.

Whatever your Kryptonite, you can get to a better place.  You can keep making your vision a reality.   It isn’t just starting over, but rather keeping on with new clarity and strength.

It is so worth it.

Rachelle LoRachelle Lo is a “mom-preneur” running a household of 7 kids plus Ben 🙂 She loves English breakfast tea, her dutch bike, and sharing food ideas with friends, and now writes as a columnist for the New Buffalo Times.  Connect with her on Facebook at Rachelle Lo

Are You Being Challenged To Change?

Last night I attended a Louisville Bowspring class, and got to chat with the instructor a few minutes afterward. She’s someone who’s taught yoga for years and had quite a following locally, yet when she started following her intuition and introducing ideas and practices that her students and community weren’t used to, they started to look at her differently and withdraw.

She then faced a challenge — whether to pioneer forward into the “uncertain territory” she felt drawn to, or to remain with the practice and accolades she currently enjoyed.

Which would you choose?

Fortunately for the new community which has sprung up around her and greatly benefited, and for her spirit which clearly now loves the direction she’s heading, she chose to pioneer and step forward into the “unknown”.

Change can be challenging because it does bring us into new territory, and sometimes those around us don’t understand and feel threatened or frightened by the change they see in us.

Nevertheless, as we step forward with courage and trust into the unknown, we can become part of creating something wonderfully new.

Are you being challenged to change?

Would love to hear your own insights and experiences in the comments below!

P.S. Want further encouragement and an example of how I myself navigated change that involved my very identity as a physician? You may enjoy reading: Is Your Identity Holding You Back?

How To Invite When You’re Not Yet “At The Top” Yourself

Here’s a key tip for those of you expanding a home business or marketing online, and particularly those of you in a networking business where you invite people to partner with you. The question is, how do you invite people to join you when you’re not “at the top” yet yourself?

Two words: vision and commitment, and a”Climbing Mt Everest” example that’s greatly assisted me.

Enjoy!

P.S. If you’re currently looking to expand and play a bigger game yourself, come explore a possibility with us. We look forward to meeting you!